Recently, I've realized that if I believe I deserve respect, which I do, then I need to be firm in asking for it, and in that way, will start to surround myself with people who respect me.
In the state I was in several weeks ago, I felt like I was hugely disappointed with the people around me and all the flakiness and dismissive attitudes... I realized that if I continue to do what I've always done, I will get what I've always gotten. And I realized that if I truly believed I deserved better than that, then I would stop giving out second chances and stop being so understanding (read: doormat).
Basically, it is not acceptable for people to cheapen my emotions, to treat me as a friend at their disposal, or to think it's okay to take advantage of my forgiving nature. It's about waking up to accept the reality that if people were really interested in being my friend, I wouldn't need to give it a second thought; I'd know. For me to keep overlooking that is to keep myself from getting to know others who will value me.
I decided I have a lot of good qualities and it's time I stand up for myself to be treated with the respect I deserve. Those who respect me are the ones who will stay in my life. Those who don't will gradually exit my life. The end result will be a support system I can trust will be there for me as I am for them.
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